OldEggNewTricks 5h ago • 100%
Neither in nor from the US, and I'm worried...
Definitely vote, if you're able to!
OldEggNewTricks 6h ago • 100%
Just one of those "keep putting one foot in front of the other" weeks...
OldEggNewTricks 5d ago • 100%
A thought I often come back to is that we all (trans or otherwise) have far more in common with our friends and acquaintances now than our past selves of 10, 20 or more years ago. I'm a very different person now than that bitterly unhappy kid facing down year after year of hell at school. But yeah, I didn't suddenly become somebody else when my egg cracked.
On the other hand, throwing away everything I thought I knew about myself was absolutely necessary. Maybe I am trans... maybe I do want to wear women's clothes and makeup... maybe I can wear a dress in public (OK, still working on that one). It kind of feels like (I imagine) winning the lottery: I beat the odds, somehow; I still don't quite believe it; and my life is about to change massively.
OldEggNewTricks 6d ago • 100%
https://www.reallifecomics.com/comic-mobile.php?comic=june-29-2020 (and subsequent pages)
OldEggNewTricks 6d ago • 100%
Good luck; you got this, dude!
I always wondered why that line resonated with me so much... now I get it.
OldEggNewTricks 1w ago • 100%
It's pretty warm today, so I threw on a T-shirt and was about to head outside when I caught sight of myself in the mirror. Oh my god, the pokeys! Hmm, well a light sweater couldn't hurt. Even so, there's a definite... shape.
You guys, I think I might have boobs now <3
OldEggNewTricks 1w ago • 100%
I’m the kind of person that can’t get a tattoo because it’s “Permanent”
I had this too! I think it came from an internalized idea of "I must accept the body I was born with." Gave me a massive crisis when my girlfriend at the time got her ears pierced... I was so close to figuring it all out 20 years ago!
Now I've allowed myself to change my body, that's all just vanished. Still don't fancy a tattoo though :P
OldEggNewTricks 1w ago • 100%
And an awful lot of eggs, I bet. "Well, if you insist"
OldEggNewTricks 1w ago • 100%
Totally. The "haha, memes" -> "wait, that's a bit too relatable" -> "oh noooooo" pipeline is real!
OldEggNewTricks 1w ago • 100%
Probably the best answer is: talk to a therapist.
Having said that, I didn't. But you should know that it's really easy to convince yourself that everything is fine when it isn't, and difficult to figure out what's actually wrong. (And then in my case, realize I actually did know all along, and was just suppressing it).
A couple of resources that may help you figure out your gender are:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible
- How To Figure Out If You're Trans
- Also egg_irl, either here or on Reddit
OldEggNewTricks 1w ago • 100%
I decided to not worry about labels and instead figure out what I want. Who cares whether I'm Really Trans™ if I get to have a feminine body -- and that's something (if I'm honest) I've wanted so much since... well, as long as I can remember. Do I feel like a woman? Eh, who knows. I certainly never felt much like a man. Or a human, come to that.
And sure, some days I don't want to look at my dysphoria-inducing face practicing makeup, or listen to my dysphoria-inducing voice doing training, and that's fine. Put on some androgynous clothes, cuddle up with Blåhaj and Trust the Process while I watch a film or something. More often than not I end up wanting to do something girly anyway after a while.
And some days, when I get the tuck just right, and my hair isn't too bad, and I've got on some nice tight jeans and a cute sweater, I think: "do I want to be a trans woman?". And the answer is hell, yeah.
OldEggNewTricks 1w ago • 100%
Oh I see, well... I suppose it would be rude not to have some, in that case! I don't suppose you have any progesterone sprinkles? :3
OldEggNewTricks 1w ago • 100%
Oh shoot, episode 2 is out this evening, yay!
I will gladly admit to wanting to cosplay Rem.
Now: I have my own Estrogen and cake will make me fat, but let's hang out.
Past: Nah man, I'm cool being a guy. But we can still hang out. By the way, where do you keep the cake? Just so I don't accidentally eat any of it, you understand.
OldEggNewTricks 1w ago • 100%
Nowhere near as fast as you, but things I've noticed so far (from my notes):
- Day 5: reduced BO (why is this never on the charts?), reduced spontaneous erections, libido gone
- Day 10: swollen nipples
- Day 18: definite buds
- Day 24: semi-clear, low volume emission
I had quite pronounced man-boobs already, so it's hard to tell about breast growth, but I've been losing significant amounts of fat everywhere else and I think they might be a bit more prominent than they were.
Not really noticed stronger emotions or anything like that yet, although I am quite a bit calmer / happier. That could just be because I'm facing the right direction now though!
I've wondered about Klinefelter too (didn't have much of a beard until well into my 30s, for example) - will find out next month when I get my test results back.
OldEggNewTricks 1w ago • 100%
Happy birthday! Let each year be better than the last!
OldEggNewTricks 2w ago • 100%
I mean, some people figure it out before puberty, but it's faster than me at 40! And there are many people transitioning much later still. Enjoy being young and pretty!
OldEggNewTricks 2w ago • 100%
Welcome :3
Good job figuring it out early! I hope everything goes well.
How exactly *do* you shave your back?
Sitting in my underwear, torturing myself with my new toy, I thought: "What I'm doing now is pretty fucking girly. I love it."
I can make all the sounds, but maintaining a feminine tone is still pretty hit-or-miss. Since I spend all day at work talking to my team online, I figured it would be good to use that time for voice practice. (I'm already out, so hopefully they won't think I'm going insane) I've been slowly pushing the pitch up over the past few weeks to avoid straining, and with a pitch tracker going it looks like I'm sitting at around 150 Hz right now (for reference I usually aim for 200 Hz when training, which I can comfortably manage for short periods). Not quite target pitch, but at least I'm not dropping out of the androgynous range too often. End-of-day huskiness is slowly getting better but my resonance is all over the place. Anyway, how do you all get your practice hours in? Any fun anecdotes? I'm still in awe of all the trans women on Youtube with perfectly passable voices.
Hello, everyone. Hopefully I'm not doxxing myself too badly if I reveal that I live in Japan, which is not a great place for trans healthcare. The [standards of care](https://www.jspn.or.jp/modules/advocacy/index.php?content_id=23) here are still from the stone age, and date from a prosecution under Japan's widely reviled eugenics laws (fortunately repealed in... 1996). Yes, that's right: the guidelines themselves state they're to protect medical practitioners. The key requirement is to jump through enough hoops to convince your doctor that you really do know what you want, and then do it all again with another doctor, just in case the first one was biased towards the patient. The hoops include, potentially, genital exams, karotypes, interviews with family and coworkers, and RLE. There's no set timeframe, but six months to a year seems to be the standard. Only then can you access any gender-affirming care, including HRT. Now fortunately there is a loophole. Any treatment started outside the scope of the guidelines can be taken over by the evaluating doctor concurrent with the inquisition. And, as it happens, I'm not personally bound to follow anything. So, with the sound of a month's supply of my new favorite hormones in convenient gel form hitting the mailbox, I'm ready to start DIY! Hopefully my doctor (who I'm due to see for the first time in October) will be cooperative. From the sound of it a lot of people are using the same trick...
> If you want to be a girl, you are one. It took me a while to understand what people meant by that (or maybe I just couldn't accept it?). The difference between "I'm a girl and I like it", and "I want to be a girl" is simply one of perspective.
So it's almost exactly two weeks since my first session. I went to one of the high-power places that needs a medical license (at least in this country), but my somewhat light-colored hair and total lack of pain during the procedure made me really worried. The first week or so showed no progress, the hair seemed to be growing as normal. Then it got a *bit* thinner, or maybe I was imagining it? But no, just today, it's been a whole day and almost no stubble or shadow! About 80% has just vanished (most of what remains is on my upper lip and beneath the jaw). I realize that the dormant follicles and so on are going to wake up soon, but I've still got several sessions to go. So if you've just started and had the same worries as me, really: wait two weeks! I am unreasonably excited about this. Sorry, past self who waited so long for his beard to come in: you don't need to worry about trying to look masc any more!
(Happiness to despair) 1. Dressing fem feels so good! 2. Everything that fits is in the wash. 3. Guess it's boymode today 4. I can't even just no --- So I seem to have gone from "this plain T-shirt is secretly from the women's section, nobody will notice!" to "goddammit I'm dressing like a man I feel so ridiculous" without realizing. Um. Happy ending, though: I forgot to unpack the skater skirt and stripy socks from my Trans Starter Pack™. Very un-stylish but who cares!
It's super cute, but not so feminine as to contrast my face. It hides the bits that stick out where I don't want them to. It fakes the bits that don't stick out where I do want them to. It's comfortable. It's (a little bit) spinny. I'm never taking it off! That is all.
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Crying Menhera-chan Top caption: Called the clinic to book pre-HRT counselling Bottom caption: What if I'm not trans enough for them to give me hormones PS Image uploads still broken :(
I was going to make this a meme, but image uploads are broken. So after spending way too much money and buying All The Things on Amazon, I've noticed a pattern. 1. Browse clothes 2. "Oooh, that's pretty!" 3. Check size 4. Shucks, too small 5. Buy it anyway
So I've spent the last few decades with very short hair. It's naturally quite wavy, and now I've started growing it out, it's sticking out in all directions and looks a total mess, particularly around the ears. What do? I know what shampoo and conditioner are, and I think I have a comb somewhere. Can anybody point to some good absolute-beginner tutorials, or give advice? I'm sure someone's been through the same thing...
Galaxy brain meme 1. I wish I was [gender], but I'm cis 2. Just experimenting, still cis though 3. Post-transition gender same as identified gender, definitely cis
I tried to put some feelings down in words. It's a bit dark; I hope that's OK. --- A ship sailed over waters deep Beneath a graying sky; A sightless pilot at the helm Dreaming of distant shores. The clouds rolled in, the waves grew tall, Yet onward pushed the boat; What else to do for a lonely crew Who knows no other home. Insidious breakers beat the prow, The sailor's grip grew tighter. Far away from an unknown port The ship began to founder. To stay with these worthless timbered bones, A barnacled prison cell, Would bring an end to a pointless voyage, And beautiful dreams as well. One step, so small, into the dark, Leave the ship to the ocean grim. It matters not what the morning brings For I was born to swim.
If you've used one on your face, then You Know. If you haven't, give it a go! You can remove a whole carpet's worth of hair in one swipe, with less irritation and super close. It's not as scary as it looks!
I thought it wouldn't bother me, but ouch... (not their fault; I'm not out yet) Boymode sucks now.
That is, wife (43) and daughter (12). Told them I was re-evaluating myself and who I wanted to be, and that I wanted to try being "cuter" (didn't quite have the courage to go further), and that perhaps men's clothing didn't suit me. The wife was mostly "yeah, right" -- seemed happy that I was trying to improve myself but seems to think it's just a phase (maybe it is? idk). But my daughter was right on board! Came up with a load of outfit and makeup suggestions, and proposed going to an anime convention together, dressed up. I asked her if she'd think it was weird for me to go about dressed as a gothic lolita, and the response was "no, I think it'd be cute." So next step is maybe cute anime girl cosplay at home, with an ally! I'm literally shaking with ... excitement? fear? relief? I have no idea. Ohgodohgodohgod what am I doing...
I'll just be over here in the ~~closet~~ corner panik. Still cis tho.